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A few years ago, I frequented a gay cinema in the East Village called the Bijou. It was hidden behind an unmarked black door debased by graffiti, easy to miss unless you were looking. You had to pass him and ring a doorbell to be buzzed in. Inside were hideous orange walls and a stairway that descended into a small movie theater where they mostly played s rom-coms and animated films.

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Once, I watched half of Ice Age 2 there, but it was impossible to focus over the sounds of moaning men, most of them gay and white, who gave each other hand jobs in the seats. Behind the seating area were about half a hookup stalls that smelled of unwashed balls where people went in to fuck. If you cruised through the dark hallway slowly enough, someone would graze your crotch and invite you in with a nod.

Recently, I felt nostalgic for the Bijou and tried to go back, only to find out it had closed permanently in The Bijou was an emblem of a pre-pandemic New York when cruising was confined to cum-filled basements and obscure sex parties you had to learn via word of nyc. There is plenty of historical precedent that allows us to see why this moment in time might be particularly ripe for the return of cruising.

Cruising was an essential way for people to form a sense of self around what they liked to do behind closed doors. And nyc do owe a big part of the triumphant return of cruising to the pandemic. Alex Espinoza, who wrote Cruising: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastimesees parallels between what happened during the height of COVID and what occurred during the AIDS crisis in the s, both instances in which intimacy could cost us our lives and ultimately made us more freaky.

At a time when human contact was meant to be bar to the Internet and Zoom, the only place to find anonymous sex was by going underground, through illicit parties, apartment orgies, or, if men were heeding the advice of the Canadian CDCsucking anonymous dick through a hookup. But by the time New York City reopened, several prominent gay nightlife venues, like the popular nightclub Therapy, had already closed for good.

Suddenly, major gaps in nightlife needed to be filled. He said that before the pandemic, he was mostly behind the scenes bartending or hosting, but that post-quarantine New York and the resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement empowered people of color to start their own queer events. Let us be horny.

For much of the s, gay bars and clubs were places for cis white twinks and muscle gays to dry hump each other to the beat of Calvin Harris remixes. The fact that we now have several cruising spaces to choose from that are intentionally inclusive for bar of color is a monumental shift from the type of spaces that existed just a few years ago, including at the Bijou.

Over the summer, I gay out to a strip of gay bars in Queens with a friend. At around 2AM, we saw a group of people leaving—they told us they were headed to a parking lot nearby. In the shadows of that lot, sandwiched between Toyotas and Ford Focuses, at least a dozen men stood waiting with their pants down, watching each other, some trailing us.

There were younger people, too, and someone grazed my crotch and asked me if we were mutuals on TikTok we were. Most of the people at the parking lot lived public lives as gay men and have access to the apps, yet, inthis is how they were finding their next hookup. Who knows what other fuckshit our future holds?

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